What should I look for when choosing a New Jersey divorce lawyer?

Don't rush to hire the 1st lawyer you interview.

Don't rush to hire the lawyer because he/she is willing to take on your matter at a lower retainer. 

Don't be afraid to ask what type of issues the lawyer anticipated based on the information provided 

Meet with several lawyers to see who you are comfortable with and who answers the questions posed.

Don't be afraid to bring with you written questions to ask. 

If you and your spouse are W-2 employees, don't be afraid to ask if it's an alimony case and if so, what is the lawyer's best estimate as to the amount and duration of the alimony award and his / her reasoning for it. If the lawyer cannot answer the question or at least give you a range on the duration and a range on the amount, then be concerned. An experienced family law attorney addressing this exact issue on a daily basis. 

If you are looking for an unequal division of assets or liabilities, don't be afraid to ask the lawyer about an unequal division and your reasoning for it, and ask if he/she agrees with you, and if not, why. 

Don't be afraid to let the lawyer know that you are interviewing lawyers, in an effort to determine who is the best fit for you. An experienced lawyer will not have an issue with it. 

And don't be afraid to ask if the lawyer is the person who will be handling your matter or whether your matter will be assigned to an associate to handle. If the plan is to have your matter handled by an associate, ask to meet with the associate to ensure that you are comfortable with him/her and ask whether the partner will be available to address your questions as well. 

The items above should be a good starting point for the consultation process. 

Look for an attorney that you can connect with and is easy to talk to. Also ask as many questions as you can and see how they answer each question.

Look for an attorney that you can connect with and is easy to talk to. Also ask as many questions as you can and see how they answer each question.  Find out what their accessibility is if you have questions and how they treat that in their office structure.